Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
By: Jessica Fern
4.40
Format: 268 pages, Paperback
Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate se…
Want to Read $ 10.49"A child with a secure attachment style will likely grow up into an adult who feels worthy of love and seeks to create meaningful, healthy relationships with people who are physically and emotionally available. Securely functioning adults are comfortable with intimacy, closeness, and their need or desire for others. They don't fear losing their sense of self or being engulfed by the relationship. For securely attached people, 'dependency' is not a dirty word, but a fact of life that can be experienced without losing or compromising the self. Conversely, securely functioning adults are also comfortable with their independence and personal autonomy. They may miss their partners when they're not together, but inside they feel fundamentally alright with themselves when they're alone. They also feel minimal fear of abandonment when temporarily separated from their partner."-Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
"A child with a secure attachment style will likely grow up into an adult who feels worthy of love and seeks to create meaningful, healthy relationships with people who are physically and emotionally available. Securely functioning adults are comfortable with intimacy, closeness, and their need or desire for others. They don't fear losing their sense of self or being engulfed by the relationship. For securely attached people, 'dependency' is not a dirty word, but a fact of life that can be experienced without losing or compromising the self. Conversely, securely functioning adults are also comfortable with their independence and personal autonomy. They may miss their partners when they're not together, but inside they feel fundamentally alright with themselves when they're alone. They also feel minimal fear of abandonment when temporarily separated from their partner."-Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
"Commitment can be expressed in many ways. Traditionally it is solidified through marriage, owning property, having kids or wearing certain types of jewelry, but legal, domestic, or ornamental undertakings are not the only ways to show dedication. In a 2018 talk on solo polyamory at the Boulder Non-Monogamy Talk series, Kim Keane offered the following ways that people practicing nonmonogamy can demonstrate commitment to their partners: - Sharing intimate details (hopes, dreams, fears) and being vulnerable with each other. - Introducing partners to people who are important to you. - Helping your partners with moving, packing, homework, job hunting, shopping, etc. - Having regular time together, both mundane and novel. - Making the person a priority. (I suggest defining what 'being a priority' means to each of you.) - Planning trips together. - Being available to partners when they are sick or in need. - Collaborating on projects together. - Having frequent communication. - Offering physical, logistical or emotional support (e.g. at doctor's appointments or hospital visits or by helping with your partners' family, pets, car, children, taxes, etc.)."-Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
"Commitment can be expressed in many ways. Traditionally it is solidified through marriage, owning property, having kids or wearing certain types of jewelry, but legal, domestic, or ornamental undertakings are not the only ways to show dedication. In a 2018 talk on solo polyamory at the Boulder Non-Monogamy Talk series, Kim Keane offered the following ways that people practicing nonmonogamy can demonstrate commitment to their partners: - Sharing intimate details (hopes, dreams, fears) and being vulnerable with each other. - Introducing partners to people who are important to you. - Helping your partners with moving, packing, homework, job hunting, shopping, etc. - Having regular time together, both mundane and novel. - Making the person a priority. (I suggest defining what 'being a priority' means to each of you.) - Planning trips together. - Being available to partners when they are sick or in need. - Collaborating on projects together. - Having frequent communication. - Offering physical, logistical or emotional support (e.g. at doctor's appointments or hospital visits or by helping with your partners' family, pets, car, children, taxes, etc.)."-Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
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1. The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
By: Dossie Easton , Catherine A. Liszt
3.93
Format: 280 pages, Paperback
The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethicall… read more
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"Nymphomaniac: a woamn that has more sex than you."-Dossie Easton, The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
"When you respect your limits, other will learn to respect them too."-Dossie Easton, The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
"A ring around the finger does not cause a nerve block to the genitals."-Dossie Easton, The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
"Fighting is the ultimate act of intimacy. (...) Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability."-Dossie Easton, The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
2. More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
By: Tatiana Gill , Franklin Veaux , Eve Rickert , None
4.22
Format: 480 pages, Paperback
Can you love more than one person? Have multiple romantic partners, without jealousy or cheating? A… read more
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"Practicing security means continually turning towards the best version of yourself."-Tatiana Gill, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
"An omission is a lie when it is calculated to conceal information that, where it known to the other party, would be materially relevant to her."-Tatiana Gill, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
"All of us have done some very bad things. We've all hurt other people when we thought we were doing the right thing, or at least not a bad thing. We were probably trying to get our own needs met-blin…"-Tatiana Gill, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
"In truth, she was lying: she was concealing information that, if he know about it, would have changed his assessment of their relationship. When we talk about honesty, we will do so from the position…"-Tatiana Gill, More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
3. Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
By: Tristan Taormino
4.10
Format: 668 pages,
Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating… read more
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4. Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships
By: Mark A. Michaels , Patricia Johnson
4.07
Format: 242 pages, Paperback
Contemporary relationships are in a state of rapid evolution. These changes can and should empower … read more
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5. The New Bottoming Book
By: Dossie Easton , Janet W. Hardy
3.82
Format: 254 pages, Paperback
Almost a decade ago, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming - b… read more
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6. Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
By: Christopher Ryan , Cacilda Jethá
3.98
Format: 416 pages, Hardcover
Since Darwin's day, we've been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. Mainstream… read more
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"But with trust we can strive to accept even what we cannot understand."-Christopher Ryan, Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
"Our sense of the full range of human nature, like our diet, has been steadily reduced. No matter how nourishing it might be, anything wild gets pulled - though as we'll see, some of the weeds growing…"-Christopher Ryan, Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
"Societies in which women have lots of autonomy and authority tend to be decidedly male-friendly, relaxed, tolerant, and plenty sexy. Got that, fellas? If you're unhappy at the amount of sexual opport…"-Christopher Ryan, Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
"The conditions necessary for devastating epidemics or pandemics just didn't exist until the agricultural revolution. The claim that modern medicine and sanitation save us from infectious diseases tha…"-Christopher Ryan, Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
7. Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
By: Esther Perel
3.79
Format: 704 pages,
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8. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
By: Emily Nagoski
4.29
Format: 400 pages, Paperback
An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research an… read more
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"What turns us on (or off) is learned from culture, in much the same way children learn vocabulary and accents from culture."-Emily Nagoski, Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
"You can't make someone be patient any more than you can make someone have an orgasm. You create a great context, and then allow it to happen."-Emily Nagoski, Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
"Please tell everyone you know: If you have responsive desire, you are already normal. No one needs to 'crave' sex out of the blue to be a fully healthy person."-Emily Nagoski, Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
"One more thing about women's external genitals. The name for the whole package of female genitalia is "vulva." "Vagina" refers to the internal reproductive canal that leads up to the uterus. People o…"-Emily Nagoski, Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
9. Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life
By: None
4.26
Format: 168 pages,
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10. The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love
By: Dedeker Winston
0.00
Format: None pages, Paperback
No one likes a know-it-all, but everyone loves a girl with brains and heart. The Smart Girl's Guide… read more
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11. Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
By: Jessica Fern
4.40
Format: 268 pages, Paperback
Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate se… read more
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- mental health
- nonfiction
- sexuality
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"A child with a secure attachment style will likely grow up into an adult who feels worthy of love and seeks to create meaningful, healthy relationships with people who are physically and emotionally …"-Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
"Commitment can be expressed in many ways. Traditionally it is solidified through marriage, owning property, having kids or wearing certain types of jewelry, but legal, domestic, or ornamental underta…"-Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
"When someone with a dismissive style starts to work on healing their insecure attachment, they must begin by no longer dismissing and distancing from themselves. This requires that they no longer den…"-Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
"Approximately 15 to 20 percent of the population has a nervous system wired to be more sensitive. These people are more attuned to the subtleties of their environment and process that information muc…"-Jessica Fern, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
12. Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections
By: Emily Nagoski
4.14
Format: 368 pages, Hardcover
An illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship, from t… read more
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13. The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go
By: Lola Phoenix
4.09
Format: 208 pages, Paperback
Embarking on a non-monogamous relationship can be a daunting experience, opening old wounds that ca… read more
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14. Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships
By: Dedeker Winston
4.52
Format: 326 pages, Paperback
Relationships aren't "one-size-fits-all" so why should relationship advice be? Multiamory offers pr… read more
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15. The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival
By: Kathy Labriola
3.95
Format: 264 pages, Paperback
Polyamory is not always easy. With multiple partners often come more complex relationships to navig… read more
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16. Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity: A More Than Two Essentials Guide (3)
By: Alyssa Gonzalez
3.69
Format: 104 pages, Paperback
Too often, the neurodivergent community is marginalized, de-sexualized or patronized. Neurodivergen… read more
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17. Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
By: Kevin A. Patterson
4.39
Format: 184 pages, Paperback
The issues that make monogamous dating daunting for people of color—shaming and exclusion by white … read more
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"Don't let discomfort silence you when your voice can lead to a better situation for all of us."-Kevin A. Patterson, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
"I didn't want to be the kind of privileged person who tells oppressed people what their version of diversity should look like."-Kevin A. Patterson, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
"Inclusivity has to be seen as a benefit to the community. The lack of diversity has to be seen as a detriment to that community."-Kevin A. Patterson, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
"No group wants to be known locally or widely as "the group that is thoughtlessly, carelessly or intentionally unwelcoming to people of color."-Kevin A. Patterson, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
18. Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)
By: Martha Kauppi
4.56
Format: 500 pages, ebook
Your favorite long-term client tells you they want to open up their relationship. Are you ready to … read more
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19. The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships
By: Kathy Labriola
4.04
Format: 200 pages, Paperback
A counselor and nurse specializing in polyamorous singles, couples and groupings, Kathy Labriola ha… read more
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20. Open Deeply
By: Kate Loree
4.38
Format: 360 pages, Paperback
A full one-fifth of the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy (CNM) at some point in… read more
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21. Polyamory and Jealousy: A More Than Two Essentials Guide
By: Eve Rickert
4.24
Format: 50 pages, Kindle Edition
The essential quick guide for coping with jealousy in polyamorous relationships,adapted from materi… read more
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