The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
By: Daphne de Marneffe
3.90
Format: 368 pages, Hardcover
From a leading clinical psychologist who has counseled couples and individuals for decades, a wise,…
Want to Read $ 14.99"We reclaim genuine space for our identities not by rushing headlong into simplistic remedies, but by engaging in the less glamorous spadework of paying attention to our feelings, clarifying what matters to us, asserting our point of view, and negotiating for change."-Daphne de Marneffe, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
"Exaggerating my partner's position allows me to fight with him, rather than ask myself the hard questions about what I believe we can afford. I delegate certain attribute to my partner -for example, recasting his reasonable concern as his "negative" approach to money- while claiming other attributes for myself- I spend as a way to "stand up for myself" in the face of my partner's "control" or to express my "sense of adventure in the face of my partner's" "inertia"-Daphne de Marneffe, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
"an "attachment injury" which comes about when one person in a couple fails to respond t the other at a critical moment of vulnerability of need. Typical moments include labor and childbirth, illness, trauma, loss, and times of transition. If a person feels betrayed, neglected, or uncared for by his partner in such moments, relational trauma occurs. the incident then becomes an organizing event and recurring theme that stands in the way of understanding and repair."-Daphne de Marneffe, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
"2. Keep having conversations with yourself For relationships to stay alive, the individual within them have to stay alive. Our freedom seeking core is precious- not freedom from others but the freedom to discover our own emotional life. Sometimes only in midlife do we begin to befriend this part of ourselves. Imagination, creativity, pleasure in aesthetic and intellectual pursuits, social action are all facet of your individuality, and they deserve attention and celebration. The last thing you want is a marriage that takes over your mind."-Daphne de Marneffe, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
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31. The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
By: Daphne de Marneffe
3.90
Format: 368 pages, Hardcover
From a leading clinical psychologist who has counseled couples and individuals for decades, a wise,… read more
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"We reclaim genuine space for our identities not by rushing headlong into simplistic remedies, but by engaging in the less glamorous spadework of paying attention to our feelings, clarifying what matt…"-Daphne de Marneffe, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
"Exaggerating my partner's position allows me to fight with him, rather than ask myself the hard questions about what I believe we can afford. I delegate certain attribute to my partner -for example, …"-Daphne de Marneffe, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
"an "attachment injury" which comes about when one person in a couple fails to respond t the other at a critical moment of vulnerability of need. Typical moments include labor and childbirth, illness,…"-Daphne de Marneffe, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
"2. Keep having conversations with yourself For relationships to stay alive, the individual within them have to stay alive. Our freedom seeking core is precious- not freedom from others but the freedo…"-Daphne de Marneffe, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together
