10 must-read memoir books like Can You Tolerate This? by Ashleigh Young

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Can You Tolerate This?

By: Ashleigh Young

3.99

Format: 256 pages, Hardcover

A dazzling—and already prizewinning—collection of essays on youth and aging, ambition and disappoin…

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1. Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl

By: Carrie Brownstein

3.83

Format: 244 pages, Hardcover

From a leader of feminist punk music at the dawn of the riot-grrrl era, a candid and deeply persona… read more

Similar categories in Carrie Brownstein's Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • biography
  • memoir
  • biography memoir
  • nonfiction
  • audiobook
"I've always felt unclaimed."

-Carrie Brownstein, Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl

"I don't want to know what's going to happen. As frightening as that is in real life, it's a crucial aspect in creativity. Being predictable is boring, and it's also disheartening and usinspiring."

-Carrie Brownstein, Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl

"If someone didn’t feel included, if someone felt marginalised, they would form their own band, write their own fanzine, or just call you out on what they deemed racist or classist, sizeist, sexist, b…"

-Carrie Brownstein, Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl

"I suppose we were better observers than communicators; we were all subjects to be worried over, complained about, even adored, but never quite people to be held or loved. There was an intellectual, a…"

-Carrie Brownstein, Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl

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2. Pond

By: Claire-Louise Bennett

4.33

Format: 287 pages, Hardcover

Feverish and forthright, Pondis an absorbing chronicle of the pitfalls and pleasures of a solitudin… read more

Similar categories in Claire-Louise Bennett's Pond book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • 21st century
  • literary fiction
  • short stories
  • contemporary
"If we have lost the knack of living, I thought, it is a safe bet to presume we have forfeited the magic of dying."

-Claire-Louise Bennett, Pond

"I only wish you could spend just five minutes beneath my skin and feel what it’s like. Feel the savage swarming magic I feel."

-Claire-Louise Bennett, Pond

"I haven't yet discovered what my first language is so for the time being I use English words in order to say things: I expect I will always have to do it that way; regrettably I don't think my first …"

-Claire-Louise Bennett, Pond

"Quite often I'm terribly disappointed by how things turn out, but it's usually my own fault for the simple reason that I'm too quick to conclude that things have turned out as fully as it is possible…"

-Claire-Louise Bennett, Pond

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3. The Wild Iris

By: Louise Glück

4.18

Format: 65 pages, Paperback

Winner of the Nobel Prize in Literature From Pulitzer Prize-winning poet Louise Glück, a stunnin… read more

Similar categories in Louise Glück's The Wild Iris book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • contemporary
"things that can't move learn to see"

-Louise Glück, The Wild Iris

" No one's despair is like my despair-- "

-Louise Glück, The Wild Iris

"I'm tired of you, chaos of the living world--"

-Louise Glück, The Wild Iris

"What does the horse give you That I cannot give you?"

-Louise Glück, The Wild Iris

4. Family Happiness

By: Laurie Colwin

3.64

Format: None pages, Paperback

Polly is a happy wife and mother from a remarkable strong and attractive family -- until one day sh… read more

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  • literary fiction
  • short stories
  • contemporary
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5. Priestdaddy: A Memoir

By: Patricia Lockwood

3.50

Format: 24 pages,

The childhood of Patricia Lockwood, the poet dubbed "The Smutty-Metaphor Queen of Lawrence, Kansas"… read more

Similar categories in Patricia Lockwood's Priestdaddy: A Memoir book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • biography
  • memoir
  • biography memoir
  • nonfiction
  • audiobook

6. The Empathy Exams: Essays

By: Leslie Jamison

4.00

Format: 256 pages, Paperback

From personal loss to phantom diseases, The Empathy Examsis a bold and brilliant collection; winner… read more

Similar categories in Leslie Jamison's The Empathy Exams: Essays book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • short stories
  • nonfiction
  • memoir
  • essays

7. The Boys of My Youth

By: Jo Ann Beard

3.81

Format: 234 pages, Paperback

Rarely does the debut of a new writer garner such attention & acclaim. The excitement began the mom… read more

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8. The First Bad Man

By: Miranda July

3.92

Format: 256 pages, Hardcover

From the acclaimed filmmaker, artist, and bestselling author of No One Belongs Here More Than You,a… read more

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9. Potiki

By: Patricia Grace

3.00

Format: 107 pages, Paperback

A Maori community on the coast of New Zealand is threatened by a land developer who wants to purcha… read more

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10. Promising Young Women

By: Caroline O'Donoghue

3.74

Format: 352 pages, Hardcover

For readers of THE COWS, SWEETBITTER or CONVERSATIONS WITH FRIENDS - as well as for fans of FLEABAG… read more

Similar categories in Caroline O'Donoghue's Promising Young Women book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • audiobook
  • literary fiction
  • contemporary
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11. Take Two

By: Danielle Hawkins

4.13

Format: 288 pages, Kindle Edition

A brilliant, funny new novel from the bestselling, beloved Danielle Hawkins'Take Two is that rare a… read more

Similar categories in Danielle Hawkins's Take Two book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • contemporary
  • audiobook
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12. A Swim in a Pond in the Rain: In Which Four Russians Give a Master Class on Writing, Reading, and Life

By: George Saunders

4.54

Format: 403 pages, Kindle Edition

For the last twenty years, George Saunders has been teaching a class on the Russian short story to … read more

Similar categories in George Saunders's A Swim in a Pond in the Rain: In Which Four Russians Give a Master Class on Writing, Reading, and Life book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • short stories
  • nonfiction
  • essays
  • audiobook
"Then do that again, over and over, until I'm pleased."

-George Saunders, A Swim in a Pond in the Rain: In Which Four Russians Give a Master Class on Writing, Reading, and Life

"What transforms an anecdote into a story is escalation. Or, we might say: when escalation is suddenly felt to be occurring, it is a sign that our anecdote is transforming into a story."

-George Saunders, A Swim in a Pond in the Rain: In Which Four Russians Give a Master Class on Writing, Reading, and Life

"There’s a vast underground network for goodness at work in this world—a web of people who’ve put reading at the center of their lives because they know from experience that reading makes them more ex…"

-George Saunders, A Swim in a Pond in the Rain: In Which Four Russians Give a Master Class on Writing, Reading, and Life

"We tend, in discussion, to reduce stories to plot (what happens). We feel, correctly, that something of their meaning resides there. But stories also mean through their internal dynamics—the manner i…"

-George Saunders, A Swim in a Pond in the Rain: In Which Four Russians Give a Master Class on Writing, Reading, and Life

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13. There’s a Cure for This: A Memoir

By: Emma Espiner

4.31

Format: 202 pages, Kindle Edition

“I don’t know why medicine felt like coming home but, for some reason, it fits. I keep thinking abo… read more

Similar categories in Emma Espiner's There’s a Cure for This: A Memoir book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • biography
  • memoir
  • biography memoir
  • nonfiction
  • essays
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14. How to Loiter in a Turf War

By: Coco Solid

4.23

Format: 176 pages, Paperback

A genre-bending work of autobiographical fiction from one of Aotearoa’s fiercest and most versatile… read more

Similar categories in Coco Solid's How to Loiter in a Turf War book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • audiobook
  • literary fiction
  • contemporary
"She gives him a hurled brick wrapped up in a smile"

-Coco Solid, How to Loiter in a Turf War

"Māoridom in Aotearoa dictates that we generate prestige from manaakitanga. It is the connection and hospitality we express for those in our care but also to show all that they are our equal, they too…"

-Coco Solid, How to Loiter in a Turf War

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15. Greta & Valdin

By: Rebecca K. Reilly

4.05

Format: 352 pages, Hardcover

An irresistible and bighearted international bestseller that follows a brother and sister as they n… read more

Similar categories in Rebecca K. Reilly's Greta & Valdin book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • audiobook
  • literary fiction
  • contemporary
"I wonder what plant I would be, if I were a plant. Maybe something with big leaves that droop sulkily if not provided with the exact right amount of water and light."

-Rebecca K. Reilly, Greta & Valdin

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16. The Axeman's Carnival

By: Catherine Chidgey

4.37

Format: 350 pages, Paperback

Everywhere, the birds: sparrows and skylarks and thrushes, starlings and bellbirds, fantails and pi… read more

Similar categories in Catherine Chidgey's The Axeman's Carnival book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • literary fiction
  • contemporary
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17. Small Bodies of Water

By: Nina Mingya Powles

4.14

Format: 224 pages, Hardcover

Home is many people and places and languages, some separated by oceans. Nina Mingya Powles first l… read more

Similar categories in Nina Mingya Powles's Small Bodies of Water book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • biography
  • memoir
  • nonfiction
  • essays
  • contemporary
  • audiobook
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18. Auē

By: Becky Manawatu

4.50

Format: 328 pages, Paperback

Taukiri was born into sorrow. Auē can be heard in the sound of the sea he loves and hates, and in t… read more

Similar categories in Becky Manawatu's Auē book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • literary fiction
  • contemporary
"I thought how many terrible words there were, and how when they were let loose in the world, they sucked up all the air around them."

-Becky Manawatu, Auē

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19. Weird Fucks

By: Lynne Tillman

3.17

Format: None pages, None

Fiction. Women's Studies. Art by Amy Sillman. The long out-of-print 1978 novella by the brilliant L… read more

Similar categories in Lynne Tillman's Weird Fucks book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • literary fiction
  • short stories
  • contemporary
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20. The Undying

By: Anne Boyer

4.16

Format: 320 pages, Paperback

A week after her forty-first birthday, the acclaimed poet Anne Boyer was diagnosed with highly aggr… read more

Similar categories in Anne Boyer's The Undying book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • biography
  • memoir
  • biography memoir
  • nonfiction
  • essays
"Amnesia is vice-president to pain and the mother of philosophy."

-Anne Boyer, The Undying

"You will understand, I hope, that because of all of this, every pink ribbon looks like the flag of a conqueror stuck in a woman's grave."

-Anne Boyer, The Undying

"As soon as a patient lies down on the exam table, she has laid down her life on a bed of narrowed answers, but the questions are never sufficiently clear."

-Anne Boyer, The Undying

"A person who complains about any aspect of breast cancer treatment in public is often drowned out by a chorus of people, many of whom have never had cancer, accusing her of ingratitude, saying she is…"

-Anne Boyer, The Undying

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21. The Mirror Book

By: Charlotte Grimshaw

3.91

Format: 320 pages, Paperback

Brave, explosive, and thought-provoking, this is a powerful memoir from a critically acclaimed writ… read more

Similar categories in Charlotte Grimshaw's The Mirror Book book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • nonfiction
  • biography
  • memoir
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22. Better the Blood

By: Michael Bennett

4.01

Format: 329 pages, Hardcover

A DETECTIVE IN SEARCH OF THE TRUTH Hana Westerman is a tenacious Māori detective juggling single… read more

Similar categories in Michael Bennett's Better the Blood book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • audiobook
  • contemporary
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23. Intermezzo

By: Sally Rooney

4.34

Format: 464 pages, Hardcover

An exquisitely moving story about grief, love, and family, from the global phenomenon Sally Rooney.… read more

Similar categories in Sally Rooney's Intermezzo book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • literary fiction
  • contemporary
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24. How to Read Now

By: Elaine Castillo

4.03

Format: 340 pages, Hardcover

How to Read Now explores the politics and ethics of reading, and insists that we are capable of som… read more

Similar categories in Elaine Castillo's How to Read Now book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • nonfiction
  • memoir
  • essays
  • audiobook
"When artists bemoan the rise of political correctness in our cultural discourse, what they’re really bemoaning is the rise of this unexpected reader. They’re bemoaning the arrival of someone who does…"

-Elaine Castillo, How to Read Now

"When white readers claim to be made uncomfortable—as many I heard from claimed—by the presence of something like untranslated words in fiction, what they’re really saying is: I have always been the e…"

-Elaine Castillo, How to Read Now

"I realize now that being an unexpected reader has turned out to be the most valuable gift of my intellectual life. The fact that I was an unexpected reader—an interloper, in so many worlds—meant that…"

-Elaine Castillo, How to Read Now

"[T]he idea that some of us can simply opt out of politics—the idea that politics is something one chooses as a vocation, rather than something we have whether we choose it or not; something that enco…"

-Elaine Castillo, How to Read Now

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25. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood

By: Satya Doyle Byock

4.03

Format: 240 pages, Hardcover

An innovative psychotherapist tackles the overlooked stage of Quarterlife--the years between adoles… read more

Similar categories in Satya Doyle Byock's Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • nonfiction
  • audiobook
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26. White on White

By: Aysegül Savas

3.65

Format: 192 pages, Kindle Edition

A "marvelous" (Lauren Groff) and riveting novel about a woman who has come undone. A student mov… read more

Similar categories in Aysegül Savas's White on White book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • audiobook
  • literary fiction
  • contemporary
"It wasn't often, she went on, that we could present ourselves to others, like a self-portrait. More often, we made portraits of the people around us, guessing at their features from occasional glimps…"

-Aysegül Savas, White on White

"Among the strongest memories of her past, she went on, was watching her mother in the kitchen. Agnes had tried revisiting this place in her painting - that blue kitchen of her childhood and adolescen…"

-Aysegül Savas, White on White

"The cousin was both real and fictional to her - an embodiment of all that Agnes wanted to be, fashioned from the particular details of her cousins tangible self. "We form ourselves through our double…"

-Aysegül Savas, White on White

"Perhaps she was just old-fashioned, Agnes said, but it seemed to her that severe introspection was a sure way to get lost in the smallest issues, to reduce one's life to a list of grievances. For her…"

-Aysegül Savas, White on White

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27. All Who Live On Islands

By: Rose Lu

4.49

Format: 240 pages, Paperback

All Who Live on Islands introduces a bold new voice in New Zealand literature. In these intimate an… read more

Similar categories in Rose Lu's All Who Live On Islands book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • biography
  • memoir
  • nonfiction
  • essays
  • contemporary
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28. Can You Tolerate This?

By: Ashleigh Young

3.99

Format: 256 pages, Hardcover

A dazzling—and already prizewinning—collection of essays on youth and aging, ambition and disappoin… read more

Similar categories in Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This? book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • literary fiction
  • biography
  • memoir
  • biography memoir
  • short stories
  • nonfiction
  • essays
  • contemporary
  • 21st century
  • audiobook
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29. Ash

By: Louise Wallace

4.35

Format: 160 pages, Paperback

Thea lives under a mountain – one that’s ready to blow. A vet at a mid-sized rural practice, she… read more

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30. Private Rites

By: Julia Armfield

3.92

Format: 304 pages, Hardcover

From the award-winning author of Our Wives Under the Sea, a speculative reimagining of King Lear, c… read more

Similar categories in Julia Armfield's Private Rites book and Ashleigh Young's Can You Tolerate This?

  • literary fiction
  • contemporary
"To be misunderstood is one thing, but the curious hostility of a sibling's approach lies less in what they miss than in the strange backdated nature of the things they choose to know. A person can be…"

-Julia Armfield, Private Rites

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31. Bad Archive

By: Flora Feltham

4.67

Format: 256 pages, Paperback

Bold, beautiful and constantly surprising essays about life, loss, joy and the fabric of memory. … read more

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Transform Your Habits

Pond

Claire-Louise Bennett

4.33

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The Wild Iris

Louise Glück

4.18

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Laurie Colwin

3.64

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Promising Young Women

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Lola in the Mirror

Trent Dalton

4.41

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