By: Rebecca C. Mandeville
Format: 152 pages, Kindle Edition
Were you bullied or rejected by a parent, sibling, or other relative growing up? Have you ever been…
Want to Read $ 7.29"While disagreements and interpersonal conflicts are common in even the healthiest of family systems, family scapegoating goes far beyond this, making recovering from its impact and effects difficult. For example, more than half of those who responded to an FSA survey I conducted have been described as “mentally ill"-Rebecca C. Mandeville, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
"Adult survivors of family scapegoating abuse have historically been diagnosed with one or more mental health conditions that ignore the trauma symptoms they are regularly experiencing. Rarely will their most distressing symptoms be recognized as Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) secondary to growing up in an unstable, non-nurturing, dangerous, rejecting, or abusive family environment."-Rebecca C. Mandeville, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
"It was not until I did my family genogram as part of my Masters in Counseling Psychology training that I learned of some of the devastating, traumatic events that had impacted my family-of-origin. Many genograms my clients have done as part of their family systems exploration reveal sudden, unexpected deaths (including suicides); illness; stillbirths; divorce; abandonment; 'missing' relatives'; and profound financial setbacks and losses."-Rebecca C. Mandeville, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
"Recovering from family scapegoating requires recognizing that being the ‘identified patient’ is symptomatic of generations of systemic dysfunction within one’s family, fueled by unrecognized anxiety and even trauma. In a certain sense, members of a dysfunctional family are participating in a ‘consensual trance‘, i.e., a ‘survival trance’ supported by false narratives, toxic shame, anxiety, and egoic defense mechanisms, such as denial and projection."-Rebecca C. Mandeville, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
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By: Susan Forward , Donna Frazier
Format: 304 pages, ebook
With Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the sma… read more
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"Criticism is the fountainhead of control."-Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters
"Charlene had controlled Karen for so long, she had every reason to believe her daughter would buckle, that she'd never have to follow through on her threats."-Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters
"...many daughters may never have given themselves permission to even 'consider' changing the relationship with their mothers, because they didn't think they had the right to do it."-Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters
"The healing process kicks into gear with with the words "This is what you did to me." That statement is not gentle or polite; it's absolutely direct. In fact, I know that seeing it might feel like a …"-Susan Forward, Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters
By: John Bradshaw
Format: 316 pages, Paperback
“I used to drink,” writes John Bradshaw, “to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I dran… read more
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"Hell, in my opinion, is never finding your true self and never living your own life or knowing who you are."-John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You
"Condemning others as bad or sinful is a way to feel righteous. Such a feeling is a powerful mood alteration and can become highly addictive."-John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You
"True love heals and affects spiritual growth. If we do not grow because of someone else’s love, it’s generally because it is a counterfeit form of love."-John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You
"Shame is internalized when one is abandoned. Abandonment is the precise term to describe how one loses one’s authentic self and ceases to exist psychologically."-John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You
By: Randi Kreger , Paul T. Mason
Format: 258 pages, Hardcover
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Coping When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder i… read more
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"It's important that you don't continue to ignore or accept rages. Realize that extreme rage directed at you or your children is verbal and emotional abuse. Even if you think you can handle it, over t…"-Randi Kreger, Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder
"Children who experience abuse also learn to deny pain and chaos or accept them as normal and proper. They learn that their feelings were wrong or didn't matter. They learn to focus on immediate survi…"-Randi Kreger, Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder
By: Shannon Thomas
Format: 284 pages, Paperback
Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and place… read more
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By: Alice Miller , None
Format: None pages, Paperback
As charming performers who skillfully reflect their parents expectations, far too many children gro… read more
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By: Tennessee Williams
Format: 72 pages, Paperback
A tender idyll about a Sicilian woman who must get over the death of her husband. "Forget the uneve… read more
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By: Karyl McBride
Format: 80 pages, Hardcover
The first book for the millions of daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-in… read more
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By: Pete Walker
Format: 512 pages,
I have Complex PTSD [Cptsd] and wrote this book from the perspective of someone who has experienced… read more
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By: Lindsay C. Gibson
Format: 216 pages, Paperback
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering… read more
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"Hate is a normal and involuntary reaction when somebody tries to control you for no good reason. It signals that the person is extinguishing your emotional life force by getting his or her needs met …"-Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
"If parents don’t label their own behavior as abusive, their child won’t label it that way either. Even as adults, many people have no idea that what happened to them in childhood was abusive. As a re…"-Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
"How many people get to be awake and aware for the emergence of the person they were always meant to be? How many people get to have two lifetimes in one? So tell me, is it worth the pain to get to li…"-Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
"No child can be good enough to evoke love from a highly self-involved parent. Nevertheless, these children come to believe that the price of making a connection is to put other people first and treat…"-Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
By: Peter A. Levine , None
Format: 272 pages,
Nature's Lessons in Healing Trauma... Waking the Tigeroffers a new and hopeful vision of trauma. It… read more
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By: Christopher Vaughan , None
Format: None pages, Hardcover
Read Stuart Brown's posts on the Penguin Blog. From a leading expert, a groundbreaking book on the … read more
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By: Nicole LePera
Format: 320 pages, ebook
As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of … read more
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By: Nedra Glover Tawwab
Format: 288 pages, Hardcover
Instant New York Times Bestseller From the bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace , a … read more
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"Visit the past, but don't stay there."-Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships
"You can love your parents and be upset about how they raised you."-Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships
"Critical thinking is a threat to unhealthy systems, and questions make people think."-Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships
"When you don't want to participate in gossiping: "I’d like to hear more about what’s happening with you"-Nedra Glover Tawwab, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships
By: Sherrie Campbell
Format: 224 pages, Paperback
Cutting ties with a toxic family member is a crucial step away from a legacy of dysfunction and tow… read more
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By: Michael S. Sorensen
Format: 149 pages, Kindle Edition
+ 2018 IPA Book Award Winner+ 2018 Readers' Favorite Award WinnerWhat if making one tweak to your d… read more
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By: Melody Beattie
Format: 305 pages, Paperback
The #1 bestseller that has helped heal millions of readers, this modern classic holds the key to un… read more
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"We work it out, or live it out."-Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
"Failure to follow desire, to do what you want to do most, paves the way to mediocrity."-Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
"We Are Lovable Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay."-Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
"A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior."-Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
By: Ramani Durvasula
Format: 362 pages, Kindle Edition
A transformative guide to protecting and healing yourself from the narcissism you can’t see, from p… read more
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"You may have had the belief that to forgive is divine but have come to learn that to discern may be transcendent."-Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
"Radical acceptance of the injustice is part of this process-it not fair, I cannot change it; I can, however, chart a different and authentic course forward and learn from this. Be kind to yourself, t…"-Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
"I am tired of people calling those of us who get stuck in these cycles "codependent" or "addicted" to the narcissistic relationship. It's not that. If you have any empathy, have normal cognitive func…"-Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
By: Jennifer Mullan
Format: 480 pages, Hardcover
A call to action for therapists to politicize their practice through an emotional decolonial lens. … read more
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By: Anne Carson
Format: None pages, Online
https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48636/the-glass-essay Anne Carson, “The Glass Essay” from… read more
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"Girls are cruelest to themselves."-Anne Carson, The Glass Essay
"From girl to woman to who I am now, from love to anger to this cold marrow, from fire to shelter to fire."-Anne Carson, The Glass Essay
"Charlotte’s preface to Wuthering Heights is a publicist’s masterpiece. Like someone carefully not looking at a scorpion crouched on the arm of the sofa"-Anne Carson, The Glass Essay
By: Sherrie Campbell
Format: 222 pages, Paperback
A psychologist offers a roadmap for those looking to break free of toxic family relationships and t… read more
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"We were never "too sensitive." We were intuitive. We saw the abuse we endured for the cruelty and manipulation that it was."-Sherrie Campbell, But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath
By: Lindsay C. Gibson
Format: 224 pages, Paperback
In this important sequel to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson o… read more
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By: Julie L. Hall
Format: 320 pages, Paperback
A highly illuminating examination of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and its insidiously tr… read more
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By: Renuka Gavrani
Format: 151 pages, Kindle Edition
Taylor Swift said once, “The scary news is, you are on your own now. But the cool news is, you are … read more
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By: Dana Morningstar
Format: 370 pages, Kindle Edition
Lying. Cheating. Manipulating. Will they ever change? What will it take to get through to them? The… read more
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By: Rebecca C. Mandeville
Format: 152 pages, Kindle Edition
Were you bullied or rejected by a parent, sibling, or other relative growing up? Have you ever been… read more
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"While disagreements and interpersonal conflicts are common in even the healthiest of family systems, family scapegoating goes far beyond this, making recovering from its impact and effects difficult.…"-Rebecca C. Mandeville, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
"Adult survivors of family scapegoating abuse have historically been diagnosed with one or more mental health conditions that ignore the trauma symptoms they are regularly experiencing. Rarely will th…"-Rebecca C. Mandeville, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
"It was not until I did my family genogram as part of my Masters in Counseling Psychology training that I learned of some of the devastating, traumatic events that had impacted my family-of-origin. Ma…"-Rebecca C. Mandeville, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
"Recovering from family scapegoating requires recognizing that being the ‘identified patient’ is symptomatic of generations of systemic dysfunction within one’s family, fueled by unrecognized anxiety …"-Rebecca C. Mandeville, Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role
By: Wade Mullen
Format: 240 pages, Paperback
"Am I the only one who sees this--am I just imagining things? Is something wrong with me . . . or c… read more
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By: Brenda Stephens
Format: 134 pages, Kindle Edition
Validation, compassion, and guidance for relationships with narcissistic mothers As the daughter o… read more
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By: Jay Reid
Format: 307 pages, Kindle Edition
This book is for those who suffered as the scapegoat child to a narcissistic parent. The scapegoat … read more
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By: Stephen W. Porges
Format: 320 pages, Hardcover
The foundational role of safety in our lives. Ever since publication of The Polyvagal Theory in 201… read more
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By: Scott Stillman
Format: 121 pages, Kindle Edition
America’s bestselling author of Wilderness, The Gateway to the Soul and Nature’s Silent Message off… read more
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By: Helen Villiers
Format: 352 pages, Paperback
Two popular psychotherapists explore narcissism in family of origin, unpacking the fallout from bei… read more
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